am i writing this because i'm salty over the misumi poledancing fiasco yes yes i am

[stardust_rifle]

i was just thinking about why people talk a lot more about oversexualization (which is good! it's an important thing to talk about!!) than desexualization and I think it boils down to representation politics/sex negativity in the SJsphere fandom world

okay, so, oversexualization. in a representation-pol centered SJsphere, the solution to this is the contrary narrative- have characters with typically oversexualized attributes be depicted as nonsexual

but then, with desexualization, if we go with what would be the representation-pol solution- depict these characters as sexual beings, then we run into the second problem, which is that the solution to a rep problem being more sex is anathema in our current sex-negative fandom sphere, which presents sex as never a solution, only a problem

i mean i could just be talking out of my ass here, but...

Comments

[yvannairie]

No, no, you're definitely on to something. The only two options for combating desexualisation and the denial of sexual agency really are either to completely remove sexuality and write a fundamentally asexual narrative or to embrace sex as simply a part of the human experience whether you're into it or not, no matter who you're into it with.

And even then, the way to write truly asexual narratives is by, again, embracing sexuality as an existant force, because otherwise you're just writing the kind of sexually repressed and sex-negative narratives that kinda got us into this mess. Either way, the only real solution is to stop seeing sex, and people who like sex, and people wanting to have sex, as the enemy.