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i know i've complained about this before, but i hate when people go "oh if you ship (m/f ship) and not (m/m or f/f ship that shares characters) then you must be a homo/lesbophobe" because it just assumes that these two ships are exactly identical beyond the genders of the people involved and it just pisses me off- like do you honestly think these dynamics are so interchangeable that the only reason to prefer one ship over the other would be the difference in their genders?