stardust_rifle: A cartoon-style image of of a fluffy brown cat sitting upright and reading a book, overlayed over a sparkly purple circle. (Default)
[personal profile] stardust_rifle
This might sound mean, but I continue to be profoundly bewildered by how many cis women I've encountered who refuse to date any man who's shorter than them, or even a man who's the same height as them.

I don't know. Maybe it's because I grew up surrounded by unusually tall women whose husbands were either shorter than them or around the same height.

Date: 2026-03-29 01:18 pm (UTC)
palominocorn: A rearing palomino unicorn with a rainbow mane and tail, standing in front of a genderqueer symbol. (Default)
From: [personal profile] palominocorn
Yeah I don't get it either. Some people seem to date not who they like but who they think will increase their status.

Years ago I had a friend who was six feet tall, and the first two guys she dated were much shorter and everyone just shrugged it off. Then she started dating the guy she eventually married, who was 5'10", and it was obvious she was taller, but they both aggressively insisted he was actually taller than her. I think this was an ego thing in his part but it wasn't a good look.

(I'm demi and have always been attracted not to looks but to whether people are kind to me. My friends thought I was goddamn insane for this: you're more interested in the fat awkward person who makes you laugh when you're down than in the movie star doppelganger who keeps insulting you? What is wrong with you?)

Date: 2026-03-29 02:49 pm (UTC)
phantasmalpoison: Phantasmal poison-arrow frog (Default)
From: [personal profile] phantasmalpoison
It's gross, I just can't respect it, it feels equivalent to 'the man must pay on a date' but without any justifiable reason. Just, man taller, woman shorter, no deviation!

Date: 2026-03-30 05:49 am (UTC)
elyusion: erm ackshually (nerd)
From: [personal profile] elyusion
I actually get it because I understand it as "cis women tend to be raised to have power gap kinks with themselves as the ones with less power, and so they also like anything that emphasizes the gap -- height gaps included" and then because it's so normalized they think it's fine to straight-up write off men who are too similar in height or below their own height. This is how I choose to understand the world. I think being written off entirely is less common than men think, but it happens enough for me to feel bad for all parties.

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